“ Rise to the challenge of bringing your dreams to life! Do not be discouraged by resistance, be nourished by it. Success is the experience of rising to the level of your true greatness.” – Dr. Steve Maraboi
News flash. There is a war being fought over you and your destiny. Your purpose is to fulfill your unique destiny, and this will be the fight of your very life.
Once, I was put in a situation where it felt like I had been shot in the back. I felt deeply betrayed by someone I thought I could trust. In battle terms, I was wounded by friendly fire. I was shocked. How am I supposed to proceed? Just forgive and forget? How will I trust them ever again? Then these words came to my mind: If it is so hard for you to let people go, then be slower at letting them in.
I can do that? It isn’t mean?
Just because they ask you, that doesn’t mean you have to say yes.
Somewhere in my Southern and Christian upbringing, I thought you had to let everyone into your life. I thought being nice meant letting people run all over you. Now I realize that is not necessarily true. Trusting the wrong people can lead to “friendly fire.”
In the army, one fights friendly fire with a tactical pause and silence. We need to do the same. Fire away at the enemy but be silent when the shot comes from a friend.
You also need wisdom and discernment about adding people to your life to minimize these types of attacks. Before giving them access to your home, your heart, your family, and the destiny you are fulfilling, you must have evidence they are trustworthy. Do background checks; talk to those with whom they are in relationship with, with those they have worked for or with; don’t be afraid to do your “due diligence.” If the individual is offended, that should be considered a “red flag.” Keep these four simple things in mind before trusting someone, they may be a plant by the enemy to rob you of your destiny:
- Go slow.
- “Hear” from your Creator.
- Gather evidence.
- Guard your heart.
While we cannot judge a person’s heart, we can judge their “fruit.” We can pay attention to their actions, choices and words. So be careful; watch out for friendly fire. In the fight for your destiny, the purpose of friendly fire to stall your plans and make you quit. Don’t let it! Keep the big picture in mind. Remember the small battles are just a piece of the war. Allow the “friendly fire” to train you; see it as a part of your boot camp to prepare you to fulfill your destiny. When your training is complete, you will be a fierce warrior – bold, confident and dangerous! You will be a water walker, giant slayer and history maker.
You may not be a reader of the Bible, or familiar with Jesus, but I’m sure you have heard about Him. He kissed His betrayer and let him go, then continued with His mission. We’d be wise to do the same.